Studies indicate that about 19.4 million South African women from age 15 and up, are at risk of being diagnosed with breast cancer. It’s estimated that 1 in 27 women will experience breast cancer, making it the second most common cancer in women of all races, aside from non-melanoma skin cancer. The good news, however, is that advancing early detection methods are helping more and more women discover it in stage one, when it’s extremely treatable.
The Best Financial Support:
1. Assuming your loved one has medical aid, gap cover,critical illness cover and income protection in place, there may still be ways for you to financially assist if such cover was at a too low level or not comprehensive enough. The costs of cancer are extensive so even small donations to petrol, airtime, childcare, toiletries and groceries could make a big difference.
2. You might be able to help with the admin involved when a loved one lodges a claim to his or her insurer.
3. If a loved one has no risk cover of any kind, you may be able to assist by starting a fundraising group.
The Best Psychological Support:
1. Being strong for someone else is draining, especially when you’re trying to manage your own emotions. Don’t underestimate the toll it will take and look after yourself; take time to reflect and rejuvenate.
2. Help your loved one stay positive: cancer is as much a battle of the mind as it is the body.
3. Give plenty of compliments and encouragement.
4. Arrange counselling if a loved one needs someone outside of family and friends to talk to.
5. Provide support for a loved one’s partner and immediate family.
The Best Physical Support:
1. Keep visits short. Offer to go for regular short walks in pretty places together.
2. Understand and accept the implications of chemotherapy on a loved one’s body. Conversely, don’t try and stop a loved one from doing something he/she feels capable of.
3. Assist with washing and dressing, depending on the closeness of your relationship – don’t be embarrassed to offer to help.
4. Offer to run errands.
5. Assist with exercises prescribed by a doctor or physio.
The Best Support Overall:
One of the key requests of cancer sufferers is that they do not want to be treated like a patient. This means their family and friends need to differentiate the person from the disease. It’s also important to allow your loved one to talk freely about the disease and to be open to honest conversations – even if they make you sad or uncomfortable. A willingness to listen and not judge is also critical. Even if you disagree, decisions are ultimately not yours to make. Gently offer your opinion if it’s asked for, but try to avoid offering unsolicited suggestions like alternative treatments to chemotherapy.
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